When a loved one passes away, the grief feels fresh and heavy. Over time, you aren’t going to ‘get over’ the loss, but you are going to learn how to live with it and you won’t have that heavy grief on a daily basis. However, when special days arise, like a birthday, wedding anniversary, or even a death anniversary, the grief can rise up and feel brand new again. Here are some tips from funeral home in Henderson, NV on how to grieve through those days.
You are going to want to listen to your emotions and let them be your guide. If you wake up in the morning and your heart feels heavy, it’s okay to stay in bed for a while or perhaps take the day off from work. On the other hand, if you feel okay, you can run some errands, do some light housework, or whatever else you feel up to. Your emotions might come and go throughout the day, so listen to them and move through the day with ease.
You might want to take the day off from work. You’ll see it coming on the calendar and you know what it means. It’s okay to take a day off, grieve with family, visit the resting place, and do other things you want to do in order to honor your loved one. Being at work might not mean a productive day as it is, so take that day off.
It can be nice to have something to look forward to on that day, so try to think of a new tradition you can start and stick to over the years. Perhaps you gather family for a meal and to share memories. Maybe you go to a special coffee shop and order your loved one’s favorite. Perhaps you volunteer somewhere to give back in their honor. That tradition can help you through the day and give you something to do.
Just as was true when your loved one first died, you are going to have to care for yourself. Eat regularly, rest when you can, and try to take a walk and get some fresh air. Everything will feel harder if you aren’t taking care of yourself. You might remember that hard grief takes a lot of energy. Don’t deplete yours and expect the grief to breeze by.
Your family is going to be very important to you after this death, especially when hard days come about. You can anticipate some of those days, so plan to be with family so you can get through the day together. Mutual support and compassion can really help.
If you want further ideas on getting through significant days, funeral home in Henderson, NV are there to help with advice whenever you need it. Contact them even years later after your loved one is gone and they are still going to help.